Never Mind Your Mind: Unhooking from Unhelpful Thoughts

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Imagine a radio. It’s always on, broadcasting sounds, music, voices and static. You can’t turn it off; it’s part of the fabric of your day. This radio broadcast is a metaphor for the mind—relentlessly generating streams of words all day long. The mind does its job so efficiently, yet its broadcasts shape our entire experience of life. 

Sometimes it’s helpful, guiding us toward fulfilment and achievement. Other times, it hijacks us, pulling us into spirals of unhelpful thoughts—judgement, doubt, jealousy and more.

Welcome to being human.

Why We Need to Unhook From Unhelpful Thoughts (To Not Mind Our Mind)

The human mind is an incredible tool, yet it comes with a peculiar quirk: it never stops. It judges, evaluates, analyzes, compares and contrasts—all day, every day. 

We can even sometimes keep its chatter to ourselves, guarded by the fear: What if people knew what I was really thinking?

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But here’s the secret: this isn’t just about you. Every human being with the capacity for language lives with a mind that operates this way. 

The challenge isn’t the thoughts themselves—it’s our relationship to them. When we take our thoughts too seriously, they can dominate us. The good news? By shifting how we relate to our thoughts, we can learn to unhook from our unhelpful thoughts and find freedom and clarity.

This is the essence of this body of work called Never Mind Your Mind: learning not to take thoughts so seriously. Creating space for them to come and go. It’s about unhooking, stepping back, and acknowledging thoughts to be just what they are—thoughts.

In the Never Mind Your Mind course, you’ll explore a range of simple, practical exercises designed to help you unhook from the unhelpful thoughts that we all have from time-to-time.

The Genesis of ‘Never Mind Your Mind’

My name is Reuben, and I’m deeply passionate about this work because it has profoundly shaped my life. My journey began over 17 years ago when I read the first chapter of The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. The chapter, titled You Are Not Your Mind, lit a spark within me. At the time, I was leading the first-ever ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) group for addictions in the UK under the National Health Service. That spark has never dimmed, fueled by years of experience working with thousands of individuals both in-person and online.

Through insights, exercises and tools shared in an easy-to-understand way, I’ve witnessed remarkable shifts in the people I work with. By gently changing the way they relate to their thoughts, individuals discover a profound truth: You are not your mind. ‍

Or as I like to say: You are not your thoughts, unless you choose them.‍

The Language of Liberation

When we learn to “not mind” our minds, we open the door to a new kind of freedom. The experience can be described in many ways:

• Unhooking: “I was hooked on that thought, but now I’m free.”
• Making space: “I was caught up in that thought, and now I’ve made space for it.”
• Detaching: “I am not attached to that thought; I’ve detached.”
• Stepping back: “I was looking at the world through that thought, and now I’ve stepped back.”
• Neutralizing: “That thought had power over me; now it’s neutral.”
• Defusing: “I was fused with that thought; now I’m defused.”

All these terms point to the same process: creating distance between us and our unhelpful thoughts. As we explore in the full Never Mind Your Mind course on Aura, you may find that one or two of these resonate more deeply with you. That’s perfectly fine—choose what works for you.

Unhooking: An Act of Self-Care (In This Tough Life)

Life is tough, but gentleness exists within it. This journey isn’t just about finding freedom from unhelpful or overwhelming thoughts; it’s about building resilience and fostering connection.

Never Mind Your Mind isn’t just part of a body of work; it’s a community. By taking part, you’re contributing to a positive shift in the world. 

As you practice unhooking from your thoughts and taking them less seriously, you’re not just changing your life—you’re influencing the lives of those around you.

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Welcome to ‘Never Mind Your Mind’: Reuben’s Circle

As I often say, there’s a positive change going on in the world; it all depends on where we focus our attention. Together, we can cultivate a deeper understanding of the human mind and empower ourselves and others to live with greater clarity and compassion. 

Life is tough, and there is gentleness within it. Let’s all pull through together. 

Do you like the sound of this adventure? 

• Not taking our thoughts so seriously, unless they’re helpful. 
• Having a space to share and get validated. 

To access the Never Mind Your Mind community on Aura, simply visit the Aura platform and search for our sanctuary. Join us to experience a welcoming space where resilience and spirituality unite. 

Here, you’ll find workshops, guided courses, and tools to deepen your connection with yourself and others. Together, we uncover insights, navigate life’s challenges, and grow into our most empowered selves. Start your journey today and be part of this supportive, transformative community.

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Join Now: Never Mind Your Mind: Reuben’s Circle in your Aura app. 

Welcome to your new community, Never Mind Your Mind: Reuben’s Circle, only on Aura. Let’s get started! Here you will find the full range of audio courses that are simple to follow and rich with insights and tools to help you unhook from unhelpful thoughts and deepen your sense of spiritual connection to yourself and the world.

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Recommended Playlist: 

‍Compassionate Affirmations Playlist (Reuben) - This is a new playlist featuring compassionate affirmations to help foster a kinder relationship with ourselves.

Recommended Tracks:

1. Compassionate Affirmations For My Mind (7 mins) - A brief but powerful track to cultivate kindness and understanding toward your mind.

2. Compassionate Affirmations For My Mind (13 mins) - A slightly longer session to deepen your practice of self-compassion.

3. Compassionate Affirmations For My Mind (19 mins) - An extended version to fully immerse yourself in affirmations that nurture a kind and peaceful relationship with your mind.

Conclusion

_‍Never Mind Your Mind is more than a concept—it’s a community. By joining, you’re cultivating a positive shift in your life and the lives of those around you.

Explore workshops, guided courses and tools on Aura in this community. Together, let’s get validated, navigate challenges and grow together.

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Join Now: Never Mind Your Mind: Reuben’s Circle in your Aura app.

There’s a positive change going on in the world. It just depends on where we focus our attention. Thank you for being part of the change. 

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